I was at the church last Sunday and my pastor gave the talk on “Jesus And Your Money: Dealing With Hypocrisy and Greed”. There he makes a 4 important factors on how to stay “content”: Thanks, Prayer Meditate, Worry. The pastor then makes sure we have a lot to thankful for in our life, yet nothing to worry to stay as content. I questioned what it means to stay as “content” then I eventually started asking myself, what is this so-called “success” in this life? I may not have lived a long life yet to narrow down the “success” of life is, but I certainly had a feeling of success in my life along with good achievements. Let me share some topics on what it means to stay successful in life.
Would having the endless amount of money turn your life into a successful one? People may think having tons of money is the way to live a successful life. Money undoubtedly has a very important role in life. However, I think money beyond your “need” is just a “greed”. However, it’s difficult to measure what that “need” borderline is. I guess when I say “need”, I mean well beyond living a satisfying life. I recently found this website which tells you the bracket of your salary falls under compare to everyone else in the world. Mine is well below 1% of the world’s population which is actually embarrassing. It is shocking to realize that there are so many people out there trying to survive in their life even daily. The word “success” probably doesn’t mean to take as much as money you could possibly could, but by giving out what you have in excess that you wouldn’t need anymore. Notice the word “excess” I used. You may end up donating everything you have in your possession. The choice is certainly yours. I do not particularly think it’s a wise move to donate everything you have though. Well, if the purpose of the donation is so that others do not suffer, why are you carrying those sufferings to relieve others sufferings?
Power has never been a problem for me. I never felt power hungry, nor felt any need to be. I am always in hunger for things like how I could efficiently do something / how I could gain better knowledge in something / how I could basically improve myself every day, etc. I personally do not feel much special when someone thinks highly of me. Let me ask you this question, why do you want to have this so-called “power”? There was a buddy who wanted to become a manager. I obviously asked why. He said something along the line of securing the job, being able to make calls, being able to control others, being reputable, etc.
People have obviously different perceptions towards what “success” is in life. I am not here to tell you that any of their opinions are wrong. I picked 4 items as keys to my successful life. Things may be added to the below list over the course of my life, but these 4 items probably won’t be removed from the list.
“Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” – Winston ChurchillThis is one of the quotes I love from Winston Churchill. He has a lot more inspirational quotes which keep me moving forward. During my teenage, the society would always cram me into do the right thing. Failures weren't easily acceptable. After I graduated from college, I started working right away. There I encountered countless failures through my development of software. At first, bugs in software irritated me a lot. These days, I am grateful to anyone who finds any bug for me. Witnessing these failures and making the progress to analyze and debug these bugs motivates me to learn so much in the course. I can feel that these processes of learning would make me a better person each time. The school was so boring and tiring for me. Studying was never exciting because they always expected me to be correct and failures weren't acceptable. It was about getting good grades, learning from failures weren't that important. You must realize to learn after any failure along with the right purpose to do so. That's what is really important.
“The framework I found, which made the decision incredibly easy, was what I called — which only a nerd would call — a “regret minimization framework.” So I wanted to project myself forward to age 80 and say, “Okay, now I’m looking back on my life. I want to have minimized the number of regrets I have.” I knew that when I was 80 I was not going to regret having tried this. I was not going to regret trying to participate in this thing called the Internet that I thought was going to be a really big deal. I knew that if I failed I wouldn’t regret that, but I knew the one thing I might regret is not ever having tried. I knew that that would haunt me every day, and so when I thought about it that way it was an incredibly easy decision.”There is a good lesson from this story. It goes back to my point #1 (Fail, fail and then fail again) above. Just like failures, "Regret can also be highly motivating". You should know and understand the failures are bound to happen. It's up to you to cope with the failures and find the best outcome from those decisions. On the other hand, you can regret that you made such decision and live your miserable life. If you think about it, what benefit is there to have any form of regrets? Learn your lessons and move on. Otherwise, it will just be with you forever and become a lifetime punishment.